This study examines the relationship between marital counselling on women to marital success and stability. The method of data collection was the questionnaires administered to married women (academic and non-academic) staff of the Faculty of Education, University of Calabar, Cross Rivers State of Nigeria. A total number of one hundred and thirty three (133) questionnaires were distributed to respondents and they were collected back from them and duly completed. The analysis of finding will be the same with a view to answering the questions raised in the study. For the purpose of discussion, percentages were found in order to determine the pattern. The results led to the following conclusions.
- Does the level of women that are educated affect their attitude toward marital stability?
- Does marital counselling make women to lose their sense of responsibility as a wife or support marital success?
- Does marital counselling and enlightenment leads to marital success?
- Does marital counselling play any significant role in reducing the rate of divorce among married couples in Nigeria?
- BACKGROUND OF THE STUDY
Marital counselling on women involves series of pre-marital counselling sessions aimed at helping women to learn skills useful for resolving marital conflicts and issues. Evidence has shown that it is beneficial for better understanding of marital roles (Ambakederemo & Ganagana, 2006). Marital stability is the relationship in which couples live together in marriage, enjoying the closest possible loving and fulfilling relationship without any intention of breakup (Adesanya, 2002). A peaceful relationship is achieved when married couples understand their individual roles and work together towards it. Adesanya (2002) identified certain factors that ensure marital stability such as economic wellbeing, responsiveness, among others. However, the strongest factor of marital stability is considered to be economic satisfaction (Adesanya, 2002).
According to Owuamanam (1997), inadequate provision of essential needs for wives and children within the family is capable of creating tension, conflict and poor marital adjustment. Similarly, Owuamanan and
Osakinle (2005) observed that marital instability in homes could lead to separation and divorce. In their own study, Ambakederemo and
Ganagana (2006) found that marital instability is caused by sex-related issues, love and trust, socio-cultural factors, anti-social vices and lastly economic factors. Although couples must work together to create stability in their marriage, the role played by women in this regard cannot be overemphasized. Women all over the world are known for their caring nature and ability to broker peace in order to maintain a stable home. It is even so in the African culture in general and Nigeria in particular where they are brought up to revere their husbands and endure all forms of injustices in order to gain the respect of society as responsible women. To this end, many women are seen in crusade grounds and some go to the extent of using charms so as to have a stable home. For example, Amao-Kehinde (2002) in his study found that out of 547 cases of marital conflict investigated, 206 of them were resolved and 314 disintegrated their marriages due to conflicts and infertility. Some methods employed by couples in resolving marital conflicts include the traditional round-table settlement by both family members of married couples and intervention by close friends. In most cases, these methods are faulty, one-sided and could make matters worse.
Conversely, stability in marriage is very important in bringing about commitment on women in particular in caring for their children’s upbringing and discipline. Therefore for women to be happy in their marriage, it is necessary to correct some of their irrational behaviours towards marital stability. In this wise, marital stability counselling technique was utilized as a way of eliminating wrong/negative attitude towards marital stability.
- STATEMENT OF THE PROBLEM
The problem of this research is that women have been observed to experience marital instability resulting from a number of factors notably economic, personality, psychological and socio-ultural (Dimkpa, 2007). Attitude developed by married women could be negative or positive depending on their individual circumstances. Most homes nowadays experience instability one way or the other. Marital instability is a serious problem which interferes with women’s output to work, emotionally, educationally and socially. It could retard progress at work if women are not helped to imbibe the right attitude to marital stability. Most married women are predisposed to acting in a negative way based on certain conditions in marriage such as infidelity on the part of a spouse, environmental conditions, just to mention a few.
Thus, the extent to which a person is able to communicate her concerns brings about changes in her attitude. Since marital conflicts might result from attitudinal problems of a spouse, this study investigated the effects of marital counselling on women’s attitude towards marital stability in
Cross Rivers State of Nigeria.
1.3 OBJECTIVES OF THE STUDY
The major objective of this study was to examine the main and interactive effects of marital counselling on women’s attitude towards marital stability by exposing them to a marital counselling programme aimed at helping them maintain marital stability. The researcher intend to outline the following sub-objective in the course of the study;
- To examine the impact of marital counselling on women’s attitude towards marital stability in Cross River State
- To ascertain if the level of women that are educated affect their attitude toward marital stability?
- To assess if marital counselling make women to lose their sense of responsibility as a wife or support marital success?
- To examine the relationship between marital counselling and marital success?